Because "speaking the truth in love" is usually neither truth nor love.
Dan Savage responds to a christianist who concluded, in a letter to Dan, "Please consider your viewpoint and please be more careful with your words in the future."
I'm sorry your feelings were hurt by my comments.
No, wait. I'm not. Gay kids are dying. So let's try to keep things in perspective: fuck your feelings.
Preach it, Dan! When people shame and condemn others for who they are, should I give a shit about their feelings? We really need to stop playing nice.
Go read Dan's comments.