Without weights and measures

And if, in your preparation, you need help and counsel, then go and open your grief to a discreet and understanding priest, and confess your sins, that you may receive the benefit of absolution, and spiritual counsel and advice; to the removal of scruple and doubt, the assurance of pardon, and the strengthening of your faith. (BCP, Exhortation)

Words of wisdom on the Mystery or Metanoia (Sacrament of Reconciliation) from JN1034:

Our holy fathers and mothers teach us that when words fail us, or we can't speak for ourselves, the Holy Spirit prays for us. God forgives freely, without weights and measures, without scales and law books, without distinction and anger.

The sacred Mystery of Metanoia is the preventive launchpad for theosis; the Sacrament of Confession was never intended to be an impediment to the Gospel or to you. Because you do matter, and your life's story is important.

Just as we are instructed to seek out a discreet and understanding priest, so JN1034 counsels us to exercise discretion and understanding in our confession, not for concealment of sin but for the good of our soul (for all sin is to be confessed to God, who made us, loves us, and is at work saving us). Read it all.

We are constantly faced with a choice between God's grace and human moralism. We do not become holy by being good; we become holy as we are caught up into God's holiness. Our transformation is though a sacred and mysterious cooperation of our whole being with God's saving and lifegiving energies, not something we can make happen solely by our efforts or will. We rise and fall and rise again. It is useless and harmful to condemn ourselves for falling just as it is useless and harmful to be vain over our rising. All of it is within the context of God's grace in which

Mercy and truth have met together;
righteousness and peace have kissed each other.

Let us entrust ourselves to the vast sea of God's goodness, like Peter stepping out onto the Sea of Galilee. Should we begin to sink, and we surely shall, let us cry out, "Lord, save me!" God is ever eager to save.

O Lord our God, accept the fervent prayers of your people; in the multitude of your mercies, look with compassion upon us and all who turn to you for help; for you are gracious, O lover of souls, and to you we give glory, Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, now and for ever. Amen.

--the BB